We have all played the victim before. How many of us have blamed our little sister or brother for breaking something? I know I have. Playing the victim is like eating bad food- it will only make you feel worse in the long run.
Here’s the bottom line: people that believe they are victims tend to push people away.
Below Are signs that someone is playing the victim card:
1. They don’t take responsibility
This is a classic sign of victim behavior. A victim has trouble accepting they contributed to a problem and accepting responsibility for the circumstance that they are in. Instead, they point the finger, or simply ignore their role in perpetuating the problem.
They are indirectly sending the message that they’re a martyr.
2. They are frozen in their life
Victims believe that they are at the mercy of everyone and everything around them. Usually, a victim will not make progress or advance in their life because they perceive that they are powerless. As a result, their life is stagnant.
3. They hold onto grudges
The victim likes to hang onto old grievances. They carry these around like weapons, just in case anyone ever tries to hold them accountable for something. A victim will bring up old memories and events in which they were probably legitimately hurt, but they use them as reasons why they can’t make changes to their attitude, their life, or their circumstances in the present. These hurts and grudges underpin the victim’s hobbled life. .
4. They have trouble being assertive
The victim does not truly believe they can control their life, so they struggle to state what they need, desire or deserve. The victim’s life will usually involve repeating patterns of submissiveness and passivity. This pattern is detrimental to self-esteem and personal development. The victim fails to break this pattern and suffers from potential anxiety or depressive disorders.
5. They feel powerless
This could be a shadow behavior, meaning that the victim does not outwardly show that they feel powerless. Instead, the victim will try to be manipulative, coercive, and underhanded in getting what they need. You may have dealt with someone experiencing this kind of powerlessness.
6. They don’t trust others
This issue is not only a problem of not trusting others. This is a problem of the victim not believing they are trustworthy themselves. The victim makes the assumption that other people are exactly like them – untrustworthy.
7. They don’t know when to say enough is enough
In relationships, victims have no sense of limits. They don’t know when to say enough is enough.They dwell on everything longer than a healthy person would.
8. They get into arguments easily
The victim has trouble choosing their battles. To them, every battle is a war. To them, they are under attack all the time.
9. They feel sorry for themselves
Victim have a habit of pitying themselves. Their mirror reflects a defenseless child that cannot fend for itself. Since other people do not usually show them sympathy or empathy, they try to give it to themselves, only to potentially appear immature to others.
10. They constantly compare themselves to others
The victim usually struggles with the habit of comparing themselves to others negatively. The truth is that we are all lacking in some respect compared to others. No one has it all.
11. They see life as always lacking
Even when something good happens, the victim will seek out what’s lacking or what’s missing. The victim will complain about complaining and then complain that they can’t stop complaining. It’s a deadly cycle.
12. They are a critic
The victim has a need to put others down and find fault in people. By doing these things, they get a fleeting sense of superiority.
13. They think they are perfect
Ironically, when there is a chance that a victim could be caught in an error, they suddenly become perfect. This arrogance and narcissism closes the victim off from having truly trustworthy and cooperative relationships.
14. They cut people out of their life
“I’ve had it – they are out of my life for good!” If you’ve heard that statement before and it wasn’t in reference to an actually dangerous or abusive situation, then you’re probably dealing with a victim.
So why am I posting this? I am posting this because the small handful of people who seem to believe they are fighting someone else’s battles with me are all the type of person that plays the victim.It’s like pushing someone and then when they do something back (push them back) quickly telling everyone they are the victim.This is not the way the world works.Doing things like I describe (pushing people and then playing the victim when you get a reaction you do not like) is the type of behavior expected from a dysfunctional person. The fact that you get involved in other people’s business is bad enough. Acting the victim of your own behavior, your own bad choices, the things you do to other people is absolutely ridiculous. Mind your own business and don’t type things about people you don’t know. Don’t say things about people you don’t know. If you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all.