I will say that immaturity is a large factor in the behavior of the narcissist known online as Glensroom also known as Glen Randy Schoen.
Narcissists have normal, even superior, intellectual development while remaining emotionally and morally immature. Dealing with them can give you the sense of trying to have a reasonable discussion with a very clever six-year-old — this is an age when normal children are grandiose and exhibitionistic, when they are very resistant to taking the blame for their own misbehavior, when they understand what the rules are (that lying, cheating, and stealing are prohibited) but are still trying to wriggle out of accepting those rules for themselves. This is the year, by the way, when children were traditionally thought to reach the age of reason and when first communions (and first confessions) were made.
Narcissists are always pretending. The items below are not intended to be a comprehensive description of six-year-olds, but only the selected bits that seem to be related to adult narcissists’ traits.
Besides being difficult and bewildering, six-year-olds are also wonderfully warm and enthusiastic, fine companions, active, curious, intellectually ambitious, philosophically speculative, very interested in the world and how it works, fond of novelty and amusement — games, music, stories, outings, adventures.
My interest here is in pointing out that many of the narcissistic characteristics that are abnormal in adults are completely normal at six years of age and that the survival of these childish characteristics into adulthood is, essentially, immaturity rather than bad intentions. But bear in mind that, while everyone who grows up passes through this stage of development, most of us spend only a few months this way before moving on to more integrated behavior. Narcissists, on the other hand, apparently spend the rest of their lives in this state of highly volatile ambivalence and uncertainty.
I don’t mean to play down, in any way, the very bad effects adult narcissists place on their own children.The problem being that narcissists want to be treated as “special” in ways that they just are not special and will hate you for loving them for what they regard as the wrong reasons.
Below is a list of examples to help you understand the contrast between a narcissist and a 6-year-old child. As a parent myself I find it easy to understand how childlike Glen Randy Schoen is and many others who are narcissists of the same level.
“Six can, oh so often, be expansive and out-of-bounds, contrary, violent, hard…to live with.”
“Your typical Six-year-old is a paradoxical little person, and bipolarity is the name of the game. Whatever he does, he does the opposite just as readily. In fact, sometimes the choice of some certain object or course of action immediately triggers an overpowering need for its opposite.”
“I love you” rapidly changes to “I hate you.”
stubborn and can’t make up mind
“The child is now the center of his own universe.”
delighted by any silly thing that calls attention to himself; may do silly, show-offy things to call attention to himself when he feels neglected or shut out
self-important (“extremely aware of the importance of being Six”)
demands rather than asks
thinks own way is always right
once started, will stick to a course of bad behavior or bad judgment regardless of the inevitability of being punished for it
asks to be flattered and praised as “good,” even (“rather sadly and touchingly”) following his worst behavior
can’t accept criticism
feelings are hurt over very small criticisms, comments, failures
“He is so extremely anxious to do well, to be the best, to be loved and praised, that any failure is very hard for him.”
wants to win every time
poor sport, can’t stand to lose
argumentative and quarrelsome
defiant, pert, fresh, snappy
belligerent, verbally and physically aggressive
threatens, calls names gets physically violent
violent temper tantrums may require physical restraint because of striking out jealous, envious
to make sure of winning, will cheat or make up own rules
complaints others are cheating and not following the rules
some are very cruel to younger children
does not always tell the truth
will not admit to wrongdoing
goodness means the things explicitly required or allowed by parents or other authority figures; badness means the things explicitly disapproved of or forbidden
very critical of others’ conduct
expects friendships to be resumed immediately following tremendous complaint and conflict
wants to boss
“Many children think their father knows everything — even what goes on at home while he is at work.”
thinks his teacher knows the best and only right way of doing things; may not know which rules to follow when school rules differ from home rules
“highly undifferentiated — everything is everywhere”
can’t always tell the difference between “yours” and “mine,” and so often steals
“random and unconstructive expenditure of energy”
more interested in merely handling or using tools than in what is accomplished with them
less interested in actual final products than in whatever he may be doing at the moment
“Sixes love to dress up and pretend they are somebody else….
You see this is all the reason why Glen Randy Schoen can take an adult disagreement and turn it into a smear campaign (it lacks enough value of course) against someone. All these lies and misinterpretations and nearly any single action even if it fails to mention him becomes about him without involving him. I ask that all of you who become the victim of Glen Randy Schoen keep in mind his maturity is so lacking that he is an exact carbon copy of a six-year-old boy. The only difference is age. Every single person Glensroom surrounds himself with can see every single one of these traits and somehow constantly just looks past it. This is reality people. This is the truth as clean and clear as I can make it. All of you are supporting an emotionally immature self-centered narcissist. You all fall for his act and you all are easily manipulated and hardly even pay any attention. He controls all of you. This is not made up. One person stops watching him and giving him attention and they are a new target of his abuse. I can prove it and I will prove it to you. You cannot argue the fact that I am correct. All of you whether his enemy or not (in his mind who knows how many people are the enemy for stupid reasons) YOU are in a dangerous situation if you choose to put yourself around someone like Glensroom. In moments you can become another statistic of him and his mindless robots. All you have to do is have a mind of your own and make your own choices excluding him. Never believe him if he states otherwise only because of he ALWAYS just manipulates you. He just tells you what you want to hear and nothing more.
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